At the beginning of new love, there can be an effortlessness to passion. Over time, it is quite common for much of those yummy new relationship feelings to fade. Life circumstances, health challenges, a new job, children, or aging can add to the sometimes difficult dance of keeping intimacy alive and juicy.
One of the biggest blessings of Tantra are the intentional invitations and practices designed to create love, build attraction, and keep love alive.
ATTUNEMENTS with self.
Tantra invites us to first attend to ourselves with breathing practices, meditation, exercise, being in nature — things that feed our bodies and spirit. Once we tend to ourselves, we can better attune with our partner(s).
One way I see Tantra is the practice of honing the ability to embody the present moment with inner listening, and then step forward to connect with another. When both people are resourced, the connection is so alive!
What attunes you to your inner rhythms? What relaxes and awakens you?
Consider engaging in that practice for a few minutes each day to keep the juice flowing within.
ATTUNEMENTS with another.
In addition to sexual energy, Tantra is also about tuning to the energy of love and full body presence with each other. Consider setting aside time to nurture each other with 5 – 10 minute practices I call: Attunements.These simple attunement practices can be delicious ways for keeping relationships juicy. You might:
- Eye gaze
- Touch slowly with presence in the hands
- Spoon and match breathing
- Pause in your day and hug for three slow deep breaths
- Sensual massage on shoulders, feet, hands, head…
Simple. Present. Intimate.
Verbal attunements involve setting aside a few focused minutes to hear about each other’s day. While listening, see if you can feel beyond the words into your precious beloved’s heart.
Ask questions like:
- How was your day?
- How is your heart?
- What do you need from me?
- How can I nourish you?
TANTRA for a busy life.
In a busy life, maybe we have 10 minutes to connect before we need to get up and take care of the children and make dinner. It’s not practical to put off all our connecting until a date night or a two hour love making session (that may get canceled or interrupted). Keeping a steady flow of juice going into the relationship with short Attunements makes it more likely that we will feel like making love, or that we will prioritize date night.In 5 minutes of present listening, massaging, holding, or kissing — we can wake up the senses and then cook dinner and have it taste even better.
I love working with couples to find their way back to a juicy connection, or to learn how to keep nurturing and attuning it.
I would love to support or help. I invite you to set up a free discovery session with me to see what kind of suggestions I might make.