Oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin — lovely chemicals that happen in our brain, encouraging us to pursue pleasure and connection.
As we become more and more present in the body, we can notice the felt sense of (the feeling of) goodness in our bodies when we are close to someone. It can happen with our children, or with our partners and friends. Non-sexual, consensual connection can feel so nurturing that our walls of protection begin to soften, making possible feelings of joy and bliss.
As you look at the photo (taken during one of my classes) of connected-contented pairs of feet, you can get a sense of what I’m talking about. The mirror neurons in you can activate as you look at the photo. Can you sense the joy? The relaxation?
Learning to speak our boundaries verbally and through our body language and eyes, allows us to trust and open to simple connections.
I enjoyed a quote recently that went something like this: A wall around our heart lets nobody in. But sharing our boundaries reveals the door to come inside and meet ourselves or another.
A big part of my work is teaching discernment, pace and boundaries so that we can reclaim a sense of safety and trust. We can do the healing work for deeper woundings so that we can return to a natural trusting openness. Think of the way children reach their arms up to a care provider to be held, “Up mommy!” Children are open to feeling loved, protected and held.
Let us reach out to be loved and held.
It’s never too late to have a good childhood.
And I speak from experience.
I look forward to meeting you.
I look forward to the opportunity to share this beautiful work with you.