Trust your true self – women love an authentic man!

Practical and compassionate coaching for men of all ages who want more confidence and skill in creating intimate connections with women…

  • Do you (or does someone you know) long for deeper and more satisfying relationships with women?
  • Do you ever feel awkward, confused, or don’t know what to say to a woman?
  • Do you feel disconnected from the women in your life?
  • Have you been hurt by a woman and want to heal?
  • Do you simply want to explore new possibilities of joy and intimacy with women?

Lindy James will assist you in the areas of self-confidence, openness to intimacy, and connection to your own hearts’ truth. You’ll be better able to share your unique gifts with women as an authentic man. Enjoy learning to act from your authentic masculine, inviting the feminine to dance with you in your life.

Lindy is a skilled, loving coach, using her own feminine essence to guide you in discovering your true expression as a masculine, sexy, Shiva—and learn the ways of the “Swoon Master.”

Lindy gives you the opportunity to learn and develop better relationship skills in two ways: insightful discussion, and by actually practicing skills with her in roll-play situations. Come explore what gets in your way of having a great time with women in a fun and non-threatening way with Lindy. Her gentle guidance provides a relaxed framework for you to ask questions (no topic is too taboo), get honest feedback, and practice being true to yourself.

Through the practice of presence and mindfulness, new understanding arises; you’ll find there is really nothing more you need to figure out. You’ll love it. The women in your life will love it. And Lindy loves helping you discover it. It is her heart’s joy to invite men to relax into themselves and have fun!

Let Lindy be your guide as you step into the “permission zone” together to bring your authentic expression more fully into world.

What to Expect

The coaching session begins with an open dialogue about what works and what doesn’t work in your love life. With loving compassion, Lindy will listen and acknowledge where you are, noting if you have any specific areas of concern. Then she will help clarify what you want to bring forth in your intimate relationships.

Lindy uses her own inner responses as guide and teacher.  Men get to practice with her, without criticism, and with on-the-spot feedback.

Every session is different and spontaneous.

Lindy primarily sees clients over zoom or in her home office near Santa Cruz.

Cost for each 90 minute session is $200.00.
Package of 4 sessions: $700 (savings of $100)

Contact Lindy


This is not an escort service. Lindy does NOT have sex with her clients. She also is not a licensed psychotherapist.

There is so much conditioning and then re-conditioning and social ideas about being a man. Lindy can hold a practice-space for men to step out of the mental constraints of all this “learning” and be moved from an internal place to rediscover self as male.  The natural male.

Lindy has a joyful and playful approach to coaching men. She supports them in discovering what gifts they are to women.

Lindy brings her whole heart and attention to her work. I felt held, important, valuable and genuinely loved.  Just a few sessions with her raised my confidence in myself and I have become much more attractive as a result.

I loved how Lindy encouraged me to center my feeling-nature and remain there long enough to fully experience the power of deeper self-awareness.  Her genuine intimacy and playfulness was also most disarming and raised my awareness greatly.

Working with Lindy is an experience of deep nurturing and exploration that allows and encourages one’s natural unfolding. Throughout my work with her, and after, I have experienced a firmer rooting in my spontaneity, and an opening—a deepening of my inherent wonder.

Lindy is a warrior of the heart, whose gentle approach brings one to experience wholeness. I find her work genuinely transformative, especially in terms of accessing the emotional body, which is where connection really happens. Anyone who seeks to know themselves better and give their full attention to others should consider this work.